It's ok

Everyone's goal is different and life is difficult. At times you are pulled into so many directions that you can get overwhelmed, confused or even frustrated. Hopefully, despite all those things, I hope everyone is giving themselves a break to sit or lay down and whisper, "It's ok".

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Life throws us many things. It can be funny, disappointing, painful, rewarding, enlightening or surreal. Everyone sets goals. I have goals myself and I slowly work on them to achieve them. It is inevitable at times that we encounter frustrations and setbacks. The question is how do we approach them? Do you approach them with anger or exasperation? One should not be frustrated if they are not hitting their targets at work or their desired weight after a certain timeline. These things could cause us to be irritated but one must look into what the learning is for that day. Possibly looking at the plan that was created for the week, revisit it and maybe work on the goal, maybe aim for something lesser where you can focus your energy on the goal but also giving yourself a little slack. When I mean, slack, I mean breathing room. It is good to push yourself but not push yourself to the point of madness.

One insight, is how do we console ourselves when we are met by these predicaments. How we do self-talk matters, I talk to myself in the morning before I start driving and I have heard it from one of my favourite actresses Gina Rodriguez from Jane the Virgin. She said in her Golden Globes speech, " Today is a great day, I can and I will." I think that is a very powerful statement and how you start your day makes a huge difference. It should be an ongoing conversation within ourselves and do some emotional inventory that even though we are not getting everything we want, we are giving ourselves credit for the things we have achieved. A pat in the back, saying, "You did well, today".

Moreover, I think we should be grateful that we survived another day and we are given another chance to tackle it the next day and be a better person. A friend told me, "Slow down and smell the flowers." I get into the habit of chasing goals and I end up with more trepidations which the repercussions gear towards more aggravation. It is still a work in progress and I hope that I would be able to come up with more concrete plans as to how I am going to handle all these questions and anxieties I have. As I move forward, I am hoping that consequently, things will be in their proper place but also remembering that I should also be armed with courage and peace knowing that things are going to happen or may not happen. Maybe not in my timeline or not all but the key is to keep working hard and believing in one's ability.

"Pain and suffering can be turned into growth and something beautiful."- Dr. Robert Puff

There are other aspects as well of how we address all these worries that we experience. Truly for me, it helps that I do this self talk daily. It became a habit. When you have your ammunition ready at your backpack, the impact it gives is lesser. It might shake you a bit but the feeling of being rattled is not so much that it could give you a panic attack. One more thing that is helpful for me is doing yoga and meditation. Set a time and day at least once a week to do meditation. If you do yoga everyday, even better. Listening to podcasts is beneficial for me. I certainly listen to the Happiness Podcasts of Dr. Robert Puff, Oprah's Super Soul and Optimal Living Daily. The practice of mindfulness and finding happiness are gratifying.

Life can surprise and we can grapple all these challenges. When things don't work out the way we plan it. We should ask ourselves, is there anything we can do about it. Although we all know that none of the things happening to us are all ok but we have to do some adjustments and we should be able to reach a point wherein you can tell yourself that "I am ok, it's ok." It doesn't mean that your suffering should be diminished but we shouldn't drag life's pickle in our daily life.

We should learn how to deal and adapt to changes. Apply it in our daily lives and when things don't go our way, let ourselves be healed and we will get better in time.

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We have a choice. Do not let yourself be stuck in misery and I want to be part of this change and learn to tell myself, "It's ok."