Dear Boys who are brave enough to say hi and chat,

Wow, kudos to you for saying hi. Very brave and courageous of you.

I am so happy you decided to say hi to me. I am unsure what attracted you to say hi. I am guessing my profile is pleasing enough that you had the balls to say hi. I have a myriad of interests such as hikes, broadway musicals, poetry, walks, sunsets, etc. Possibly you might be curious. It could be a case of you might be genuinely interested or maybe you have a question. Let me make this assumption that you have read my profile and aware of my gender identity. I have been honest from the get-go, so I think an introduction from you means business. Aside from the text portion on my profile, you have looked at my pictures. So maybe that is another deciding factor for you. I am not sure. I still think that smile captured you. An FYI, an online dating profile consists not only of pictures but also a description of myself. So, for this one, I assume you have read it.

Take note, I like to hike!

To begin with, I think it all depends on the context of your very first sentence, words or phrase that you will send me. It could be a hi, or maybe, what's up or how's your day or maybe suck my dick. None of those are bad. The last part is inappropriate but believe me, I have read some of the nastiest introductions out there. I won't be hurt, I will be offended. Remember it comes with a price. I would respond differently of course when it is inappropriate. The sass is coming out just letting you know. If it's all nice and polite, I go by the golden rule. You will receive the same treatment.

I also want to acknowledge the fact that you are curious or brave to say hi and eager to know some things about me. In all honesty, I admire the boldness just by starting the conversation and opening that door. I am certain that took a lot of strength to be able to connect to someone who is transgender. Straight away I am more intrigued as to how our conversation is gonna go.

Now, that I got the hi, I have some requests moving forward since you are aware that I am a transwoman. First, I deserve respect and honesty. I wanted to know what the intent is. I am willing to entertain questions. However, I am telling you now I am not an LGBTQIA resource nor a transgender website where you can ask me a bunch of questions and think I would be able to answer them in a snap. This ain't an Oprah or an Ellen show. No, it does not work that way. There are topics that you can think of as a conversation starter some of which can come from anything I have said on my profile.

Consequently, I encourage you to carefully formulate the questions you want to ask me. Some questions can be inappropriate. I want you to prevent those blunders. Like, did you have the surgery? Are you a bottom, top or verse? How big are your tits? Do you have a vagina? Would you be willing to swallow my cum? How big is your clit? All these indecorous questions are unwelcome in my world nor my trans sisters' world. It is ok to make mistakes, I will call you on it but if you acknowledge and apologize. We can move on. Clear?

I am a fierce, fashion girl, too!

The other thing that you should avoid is giving me underhanded comments saying, "I have looked at your picture. I wouldn't have known that you are a transgender woman." This is not cool. Your fearlessness doesn't allow you to spew those kinda comments. Some ladies would have punched you in the face if it was said in person. The approach is everything, verbal or written.

I get it that some of you are new, and I don't want to discredit the initiative you have shown. However, I also wanted to see a good conversation happen between us. If you want meaningful discussion, there should be respectful boundaries. I think that is paramount in fostering an environment of respect.

However, I am telling you now I am not an LGBTQIA resource nor a transgender website where you can ask me a bunch of questions and think I would be able to answer them in a snap. This ain't an Oprah or an Ellen show.

I also want to emphasize you are not gay, remember that sex and gender aren't the same things. Plus, your identity is irrelevant; however, for your peace of mind. You are straight. Believe me, you are. I believe connection is connection. It does not matter what is in between my groins. I just want an understanding that our body parts don't have much to do with our gender. Don't get too wrapped up with the labels. Whatever you have learned in sex education, actually needs a bit of a revamp, so I am giving you a little bit of a refresher. We gotta break down that bias, I am asking for patience but also for understanding. Some brains would be helpful, too.

Now that you know what you need to avoid. I want to praise you for taking the time to say hi. So keep chatting. Let's keep exploring. I am waiting.

Sincerely,

Jade