Dear Mr. Won't date a Transwoman,

Hey, you! I am unsure why you even said hi to me or even bothered starting a conversation with me. You recognize what I am, and it does not seem to matter to you initially, but now I know you have an ulterior motive. Whatever it is, I see you won't date a transwoman.

I get it; I am not everyone's cup of tea. Very hyper-aware of that. This world has revealed to me that "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Bernard Baruch said that, and I agree with what he said. That is why it is so important I surround myself with people who care for me and love me for me. Or else, everything will be chaos and noise. Who needs those? You, for one, is a clunking sound that needs to go. I understand that saying hi is a nice gesture. Of course, with the right motive, it is. On the other hand, when the start of the conversation reeks of ignorance and self-aggrandizement, it sure will make my stomach hurl.

So, for starter, you said hi because you want to be friendly. I get that. You like what I have to say, and you think I am super cool. Well, I am lit as fuck, just so you know. Meanwhile, you wanted to ask more about me, and somehow, a transwoman is not someone you want to date. I wonder why?

My old self would tolerate it because I was looking for approval and always thought I needed to be likeable. Not anymore. I have done so much therapy to go back to that nonsense. So, for starter, you said hi because you want to be friendly. I get that. You like what I have to say, and you think I am super cool. Well, I am lit as fuck, just so you know. Meanwhile, you wanted to ask more about me, and somehow, a transwoman is not someone you want to date. I wonder why?

For years, I have thought that I would get a boyfriend by just being myself. I think, for the most part, it is correct. I truly believe that honesty and being your authentic self-will make you attractive. Others really can fuck off if they do not see you. It just means they are not into you, and they are very superficial. It is not meant to be a period, full stop. However, I know I will get a boyfriend when things line up like values and respect and if it is someone that excites my soul. Meanwhile, there are some guys out there who have a list of people they want to meet and who they demand to be in bed with.

"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."- Bernard Baruch

Mr. Won't Date a Transwoman. You are very vocal about it. Again, I am not forcing myself on someone, but at the same time. I think the facts need to be straight. When I mean straight, I mean verified. The dating world is an equal-opportunity playground, at least that is how I see it. The new dating world that I identify with is full of bullshit, lies, sex, profound disappointment and flakes. The latter is the most immense problem for my dear trans-sisters out there. You, mister, don't want to date a transwoman because we are not real women as per your definition.

I do not want to be gender critical here, but we need to move past the harmful narrative that we see, hear and read out there. Adequately taken into account that my experience is not as huge as the other cis woman out there. I have only transitioned later in life, but the picture still does not erase that I am a woman. I am not here to impinge on cis women's freedom or discredit other people's work. I think the variations of definitions should remain trans-inclusive, or we are just going to continue to exacerbate further injustice that transwomen are experiencing.

Going back to the crucial point, sex was your ulterior motive, because you do not have experience whatsoever. Hey, my body is not a practice ground for some fantasies you have in your head. Please stop objectifying us because it is hard enough to be on this body, let alone try to live up to the norms of feminine beauty. Take note of this. Sure, you don't want to date, but I never said I would date you either, so get off your high horses. I do not need another asshole in my life. I have seen plenty already.

So long, jackass!

Sincerely,

Jade