Don't do the Why's with my name change

Ok, here is a serious question to everyone but at this moment I am going to be specific. To all my female cisgender friends out there.

Did I question any of you about your name change and what I meant by that is your last name? This is me not targeting y'all ladies out there but my recent exchange was more with them and questioning my name change. I never questioned when you changed from Ms. Smith to Mrs. Smith Anderson.

"Getting to pick your own name is very powerful. It's a way of taking ownership of your own identity." - Anders Van Marter

I understand the sudden confusion. I get that but honey I did not get confused when I am pulling up the schedule as your Supervisor and saw you changed your name. I was never surprised as well when I opened my FB or IG account and saw you had a recent name change. I know, I am coming strong here. Take note this is not the only encounter I had since I had my name change. This has been a long time coming. The process I know was easy, but it can take a bit of time as it does not only involve paperwork but also mental health work. I took my time with this.

Some sultry vibe

I am not shoving this name change to everyone's throat, please remember that. I will exercise the same patience I did when I have started showing up at work with long hair and make-up. It was quite alarming on my end because here I am doing a switch and people were confused with what pronouns to use. Some have been upfront and kind to ask me what my preference is. It took a long time, and I was beyond patient. So I will do the same with my name change. I can tolerate the slip with the switch from Teddy to Jade, but what I cannot tolerate is the attitude that comes with the question, "Why the name change?"

I almost want to say, do you know gender dysphoria? It may be beyond them but to make it easier, "I am transitioning and everything has to follow." I still get the look and the follow-up questions. Transitioning is an individualized process mine took a while but I do not expect people to understand nor follow through. In all reality, it ain't my problem.

Hi Jimmy Choo

I can tolerate the slip with the switch from Teddy to Jade, but what I cannot tolerate is the attitude that comes with the question, "Why the name change?"

There are many things that I have to do with my transitioning and some of you probably do not have any idea of what I go through and I am not asking for sympathy. I am asking for less inquiry and respect. My transition is not new, it did not happen yesterday. It has been taking place for so long so to inquire and question me about my sudden name change is appalling.

In the spirit of kindness, I will be very kind to remind people of my name change. I know it will take time. It will and I will be patient.