"I am straight." Relevance?

Let's get this straight and let's start with definitions of sexual orientation and gender identity. According to the Planned Parenthood website, "sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to and who you feel drawn to romantically, emotionally and sexually" while gender identity is not about who you are attracted to but about who you are- male, female, genderqueer, etc. " So, when some people say they are straight or cisgender, according to Wikipedia, "it is a term for people whose gender matches the sex that they were assigned at birth." Lately, I have experienced cissexism in which is synonymous to transphobia. However, that is not a central issue, I wanted to dig more as to why guys will incorporate their gender identity in conversations in which at times I find irrelevant.

Be respectful, kind, inclusive and considerate.

I don't understand the relevance of including their gender identity in some conversations. For me being told that they are "straight" it felt an associated fear and an attempt to achieve more on the machismo scoreboard like I have created a tally. It will not score you a blow job, I tell you. At least, that's what I feel when they start spewing their straightness into my face as if it was a surprise. Once they have opened their gender identity, it makes me wonder, where is this exchange going? I am not sure what guys are trying to insinuate.

For me, it poses that question, "Will I be gay, if I meet, date, have sex with a transgender woman?" I bet 99% of the guys that I had talked to had this lingering inquiry in their head. It all depends on the hypothesis you wanted to create in your head. If you are choosing to believe that we are women despite what our chromosomes say and we are a viable romantic partner, then no you are not gay but if you are clouded with tons of messy information that you read or watch, then you might have a different opinion. Thus, the discussion of, am I gay if I had sex with a transgender woman? We are aware of people's aversion to us but I do not think that putting this equation together: dating + sleeping with a transgender woman equals homosexuality. We get it, you will simply delete us from your likes or will block our profile once you knew that we are transwomen. Going back to its relevance in a conversation, it is simply irrelevant. Let me tell you, for some who already have read a profile and got past the "Hi and hello, I am transgender introduction" should have the brains to either continue or not. Proving, your straightness to us does not make you attractive.

For me being told that they are "straight" it felt an associated fear and an attempt to achieve more on the machismo scoreboard like I have created a tally. It will not score you a blow job, I tell you.

Curiosity without sensitivity is my second premise. Their curiosity is eating them up or they just want to simply explore or they might be interested. The repercussions somehow, guys think that there is something or nothing is wrong with them. Most of the time they go overboard by asking inappropriate questions. The acknowledgment of their inquisitiveness should be coupled with sensitivity. Informing me about their gender identity has some good and bad in it.

I have read an article from the Daily Beast by Samantha Allen, which states, " Transgender women—and transgender people generally—do not need any more reminders that society hates us." The questions about our dick size, whether we have a vagina now or not, are all about curiosity but with their genitals thinking for them. If you are not able to correctly use proper pronouns, then we do not need to be wasting each other's time. Intrusiveness is dangerous and not only that it is disrespectful, but there is also a right time and place for those types of queries. If you know yourself and we are not just a checklist then flaunting your cis status has no bearing with the person that I am because I get it some of you just wanted to get laid. For some, who are interested and are just needing education, I would be more than willing to give you a little lesson.

When a straight man, falls in love with a trans woman, do not tell them, "Good for you", we are not Olympic medals that they have racked up in Sochi or Torino.

Lastly, the brutal use of the word straight I think is for guys to tell themselves, "I am ok, this is fine, nothing is wrong with me." To tell you the truth, there is nothing wrong with you. If you want that reassurance, you will not get that from us but you will get it from yourself. Knowing yourself goes hand in hand with your comfortability in ensuring that the conversation you are having with a transwoman is respectful, open and inclusive. There is no need to use derogatory remarks, such as "faggot", "fake woman" and "sick as f*ck." The experience might be new to you but let me tell you this, we are none of those phrases. We experience prejudice, bigotry, and discrimination on a daily basis. We do not need to subject ourselves to some utterances that do not depict us. When a straight man, falls in love with a trans woman, do not tell them, "Good for you", we are not Olympic medals that they have racked up in Sochi or Torino. Christopher Cooper said in his article, My Experiences As A Straight Cis Man Engaged To A Straight Trans Woman, "They do not need that pat on the back." Do not create the situation abnormal or act as if it was a surprise.

Being straight does not only encompass your masculine features or your abs but it also includes being respectful, kind, inclusive and considerate. We get it, you are straight.