It is a bunch of bullshit

Bullshit! You know one when you see or hear one. Dating can be such a pain in the butt, and some of the stuff you encounter is a bunch of bullshit. So, let me get started.

Some guys might tell me to shut up and be concise with what I am supposed to say. On the other hand, I thought this was my platform, while others may find it annoying and excessive. Other men might think it is leaning awkwardly on the lecturing side; that is not the goal here but to foster awareness. I want to be able to make my point. I am outspoken; I can be quiet and listen to people's take on things, but I can be explosive if I need to. You will see sass and courage oozing out of me.

Russian Princess or Evelyn Salt

Ok back to things that are bothering me. Offensive guys will not stop asking this question: Are you a top, bottom or verse? I think these guys require a mightier slap on the faces. I get it. You need to know. However, I do not quite recognize the urgency. Seriously, like in the first five minutes of the conversation. Why do you think that is an appropriate question? Another foolish question plaguing the women in the dating world is the inquiry about their cup size, or let me brutally say it, tits size. Why is that again relevant? Again, I get it for some guys. It is crucial, and they need to know how big or small. You know why it will kill them if they have to wait the next day. The seriousness of the question creates pressure, and ladies do not allow these questions to pressure you. I have a little one, and I don't get these mother fuckers to pressure me in answering that question. My thing is if you are not satisfied with what you see, you are allowed to move on.

What I find interesting in the dating world are the brazen questions without critically thinking whether they are offensive or proper. Let us not exclude me here. I am hyper-aware I have an extra layer of difficulty as a transwoman. I find they always wanted to know your erogenous zones before you even introduce your name to them or vice versa. They want to know if their dicks can fit in any of your orifices before they even read your profile. It sucks that it was quite the norm recently. I also question, where did the curiosity go? I am unsure. Sexual queries are exciting, and they can be fun. First, we have to establish comfortability and likeability. Hey, do not get me wrong, I want all those indecent offers, too. However, I asked myself, where did it bring me? It inevitably brought me to Aldergrove, BC, with a bed with no one in it desperately waiting for me. That is where it brings me.

I find that video camming to guys is a testosterone show. Filling the void of that machismo and bravado without really climaxing in the end.

Read closely; I want to bring it to the attention of the men. Having a better understanding of what women go through dating will be pivotal moving forward. I have said so many times. There are other facets of me that you can ask or may want to find out. You may not find it enjoyable in the beginning to be inquiring me what movies I want to watch or hiking trails I want to tackle next. I think there is beauty in those personal conversations rather than starting with the question, "Are you able to take it well?"For fuck's sake guys, where is the decency or maybe the brains? Sure, you are free to move on because you are distressed that I was damaging you for targeting your ego. Here I am pondering whether you have not realized the impact of the inappropriate questions you asked me. Talk about sensitivity. If you can manage to be sensitive in the first 30 minutes, I think I am ready to give your mom a crown. I wonder how your parents would react if I forward a screenshot of our chat.

Let us stop all these invites with sexting and video camming. Honestly, I have been sexting since I had a Nokia 3210. So it is boring now. I want a body and a conversation that can go from entertaining to sexy. That is already mind-blowing for me. What's up with the video camming and just showing the genitals and torso without the face. I do not do well with half-ass effort. If that is the effort you are giving me, you are not going far. I would rather watch porn; at least they talk, and the moaning is more audible. I find that video camming to guys is a testosterone show. Filling the void of that machismo and bravado without really climaxing in the end.

Sultry Queen

A woman will not want to move forward with someone whose motive is purely sexual; unless the intention is the same. Then, yes the destructive energy will continue to be like that in the next hour or so of your conversation. Girl, that is not classy. I am not here to tell what is classy or not. I am not pure. Definitely not. As I age, this bitch is having her 30th birthday (7th edition) in a few days. Settling for less is being erased from my vocabulary. You have to recognize your worth and understand that something fabulous is waiting for us out there. I am also on the hunt for that, so please keep nudging me. Thus, this post, right.

Finding that balance with all this bullshit that we are dealing with daily is hard. I see it at work but do I need to experience it with the people I want to date or have an interest with? A big no. It is also about weeding out the men whose ulterior motive is to do mind games or has inconsistencies issues. Learning to divert the questions to a more meaningful conversation might be helpful. At times they need a bit of help in that department. No, I am not saying that they are dumb. They need some reminders that respect and boundaries are paramount. Right off the bat, nip it in the bud. Get the fuck out of the conversation if it is not benefitting you anymore. After all, you are wasting your time wherein the next guy in line has more pleasant things to say. If you know what I am saying.

You are ready to eradicate this bullshit. It starts today ladies.