Live in Truth

Live in truth. What does it mean? According to Denise Mack, "simply put, living your truth means living out your joy. it means being a walking expression of what you feel within your very soul- at the core of you." The question now is, how do you live in truth?

We are so focused on living our lives. Yet, once we stop and we ask ourselves, what is our purpose or am I genuine? We do not have an answer. Then, it leads to all these confusions on how we want to continue with our lives. In all honesty, all it takes is a mind shift and getting clear on who you are. If I may add, we also have to stop being dishonest and judging ourselves. Easier said than done, I know. I am hyper-aware that we do things that disrupt our inner clarity, happiness, and motivation.

We create disharmony and add to the chaos. It is also not a good idea that when we are suffering from all these confusions, we continue to numb all the unpleasant feelings we have by getting distracted. Distracted meaning, we will drown ourselves with a pint of ice cream (a pint is not that bad :-) or binge watch tv shows. It is necessary to do self-care, do not get me wrong but indulging ourselves in things that do not help us grow could mean that we are not aiding ourselves to mature. There are ways in which we could grow and remove all the barriers why we are hiding from our facade.

Live in truth

1. Acknowledge who you are: The first step, I believe, is by asking yourself who you are, what do you stand for, and what is your purpose? There are other parameters that you can also ask yourself to let yourself break free from the shell that you have. We need to shed our light on others. Let the real you emerge. Accepting who you are right now. We all have our struggles, but it is normal to have them. Remember that you are valued and loved. Listen to your inner self and ignore your inner saboteur. One thing that helped me was writing and journaling. By releasing all thoughts, it helped me in a lot of ways.

2. Share your experiences: What else is more meaningful than being out there in the open. One thing that resonates with me is by speaking our truth to others by being in the arena. Share our experiences with others. It is easy to get disheartened when we are hearing other people say negative things about us. Know that no matter what you do, people will say something. You might as well continue to share your journey. Some of us care too much about what other people will say. Release that judgment. We are always on the lookout for what people will say about what we wear, what we say, what we do, etc. Those can get tiring as well as suffocating. Do not let other people's judgment dictate your life. Suzanne Chang said, "Connect, express and release. Now you have done your part, now go live your truth."

3. Understand and befriend fear: Facing your fear is hard. I get it. I experienced it myself. The first time I finally told myself that I am trans was liberating but also anxiety-inducing. Now that I already have a clear picture of who I am and who I wanted to be, I must face the world. That was nerve-wracking. I felt uncertain during those times, and I was like, why can I not just go through it without people asking me. I was worried about the questions, the look and the comments. I had to slowly release all these trepidations and assumptions I have of the world and others. I have learned to understand that my fears are a set of irrational beliefs. It took me a while, and I still have those moments where I would worry, but I have to imagine and create that positive imagery in my head. It is all about the stories in your head and our distorted expectations.

4. Live it, roll with it. Live proudly. Your truth is the only thing that matters. Let no one deny you with it. Be bold. Do not fall into these safe and comfortable patterns that we see out there. We have to get used to being uncomfortable and vulnerable. Practice self-awareness. Living your truth is your reality. We have to tackle it daily, and we need to be in control of it. Align your values and behaviours with your true self by ensuring we continue to learn about ourselves. Be a good influence on others. Find and do things that give you joy and what your soul craves. Find those supports around you. Create plans on where you want to be, and most important, live authentically.

There will be roadblocks ahead, but joy is within your hands. Live in a place of truth.