Rent free mind

Remember the last time you thought of someone who upset you or made your day horrendous? How long did this person remain in your head because you are angry? Two or three days? Max five days? Buddy, that is not the way to live. Have you heard of "rent free mind"? Do not have tenants in your brain because of the stress they have given you. The next question is, how do you evict them?

I had those days where I was so annoyed, and this particular person will come up in every topic. Whether, I am talking to one of my good friends or my sister. It was like a recording in my head that this person takes centerstage, but I realized she was overtaking my mind. Again, it is ok to be upset by something or someone. However, we need to learn to have that outright discussion with yourself and let that bitch in your head say, "Stop, you are not dominating my day." I am sure that you if you don't let that narrative go out of your system, it will continue to grow. Therefore, you just let someone rent free in your mind. I said before, my mind is like Vancouver real-estate, expensive.

I said before, my mind is like Vancouver real-estate, expensive.

We are triggered by many things such as work related issues, family concerns, etc. Our interactions with others can be pleasant and meaningful. On the other hand, some exchanges can be hurtful and spiteful. Unfortunately, when these negative interactions occur, our brain reacts. Of course its duty is to safeguard us. Our brain is busy enough so when someone upsets us. We find ways on to calm our mind. We have all these running thoughts and playback. They are playing in your head, but it is up to us whether we want to keep them there. Most people would recommend not to keep those gloominess there. It is easier said than done. It can be challenging. We have to think about how these negativities are influencing us daily.

Don't let people rent free in your head.

Remember that your brain is your sanctuary; things about you or related to your well-being should be the only content of it. You can have other things in there like your loved ones, your upcoming vacation, your workday, even that should be parked in the parking lot once you finished work. People who irritate you should never be governing your mind. They are occupying our mental attention. Come to think of it, is it healthy for you to be think about the issue you have with that person. I do not think so. If something is bothering you, approach the person. If you are not ok talking to that person. Make sure you quickly recover from the incident and let it be bygones. Know that the next time it happens, you will speak up. If you have limited contact to this person, try to avoid as much as possible. Even if it means ignoring them in the hallway, because really who gives a flying fuck. Harsh I know.

In my heart of hearts, I believe that karma is a bitch.

Evicting these so called renters in your head might be an arduous task. I did not say that it would be easy. I knew for a fact two years ago, I learned the hard way where I had to cut my contact to an individual because she was the bane of my existence. I freed my mind of her. Yes, I gave a her a persona. A few months later, after I removed her phone number, I received a messaged from her. A very jovial one and asked me how I was. My reply was, "Who you?"Then I began this evil laugh. I knew she was pondering whether she texted the right person. Sure, she was. She did a follow up text, "Is this Jade." The conversation ended there, and I did not want to engage more. There was nothing to discuss. I am not a vindictive person. In my heart of hearts, I believe that karma is a bitch. Let me tell you, get rid of them ASAP. There is so much to say about how we respond to the situation because we don't want to be reactive. Or be called belligerent. We want to be smart and not let resentment take over.

The bottom line is do not let unimportant things bother you especially people, who are living rent free in your head. Give attention to the things that matter because they do not. There are so many important things that we should be thinking about. Keep in mind; life is too short.