The problem of wanting more

We live in a culture where we think more is the best. We are always hunting for the best things out there, whether they are the latest outfit, gadget, etc. Wanting more is not a bad idea but more to someone depends on what they value. More also begs to question whether it brings happiness.

Black Friday sale is still on going, and I have my eyes on these beautiful Valentino shoes. I contemplated for days whether I should get it or not. I had to weigh the pros and cons of getting them. I curated the outfit already in my head, the events where I want to wear them, etc. On the other hand, I have thought about the days it will be spending time in the box. The closet where it will be collecting dust, and will not see a sidewalk. I opted not to get them. The thought of "more" bombarded me for days because in my head more will give me joy. In addition, I will have better collections of shoes. Read it, "more shoes."After all, what is an additional Valentino in my roster of Loubotins, Manolo’s and Jimmy Choo? The pursuit of more is what we are currently seeing now, although I have been seeing many minimalist ideas out there. However, there is a problem to desiring more.

Remember the motivation behind the purchasing and the acquisition of these temporary things.

Let me count the ways. When more is the goal, there is no satisfaction. We tend to get hungry to want more. More power, things that are more material, more wealth and prestige, etc. We never truly gain anything. Well, at some point we do, but we are never happy. We have this notion that when we get more stuff. We are going to be happier but that is not the case. The immediate joy, when we get something new in our mailbox or at the front door, are definitely exciting but do it really last? This type of thinking is very risky. Your personal happiness relates so much about wanting more. My dear, it is not the best way to live. You will always be dissatisfied. Remember the motivation behind the purchasing and the acquisition of these temporary things. This mindset is a killer.

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When we start obsessing about wanting more in our personal life, we are creating an imbalance. We create dissatisfaction that is more personal, we are setting up ourselves to failure. We get of out of touch with our personal reality. I am not saying that it is bad to want a nice shoe or a bag BUT when you are out of touch with your why. Then it makes it more problematic. The pressure that we put on our bank account and ourselves is immense. Moreover, it adds more anxiety. This world is already experiencing so much, and we do not want the added trepidations. We need to understand that material things do not equate with happiness. Period.

What I believe is severely lacking is the fundamental understanding that when we earnestly invite the idea of being present and enjoying the lovely things at this exact moment; we are inviting happiness. Let us intentionally ignore the modern notion that "more is better" and that getting more; we can find happiness. You choose.