With myself and my allies, I am empowered

An empowered woman comes with a price but when you know you are backed up by other powerful women the only way is to go up. That is a great feeling.

I just hang up the phone with my friend Kristine. This is the longest chat ever we had. Two hours and five minutes. Our topic ranges from work issues, family, dresses, shoes, makeup, and food. We have not forgotten our discussion to have a NeverFull Louis Vuitton bag. We talk about other things as well. Some I am not willing to divulge on here but can you imagine the things two girls can talk about in two hours and five minutes. We share ideas and inspire each other. We even talked about our surgical histories and diet plans. After that long conversation which does not feel like a full 125 minutes, we felt something, I will quote her, "rejuvenated" and most importantly, "empowered."

Those two things are such great words. I incorporate the word rejuvenated to a spa, but this is a different type of rejuvenation where your ideas are challenged, your thoughts were heard and acknowledged. This is central to the theme of how we empower one another and ourselves. Nowadays, all we hear are the backstabbing slutbags in the corporate world. Someone tainting one's integrity, and spreading of malicious comments to destroy someone's credibility. There are so many things happening in the world right now that I find those negativities quite exhausting. If we want to position ourselves into power, I believe that anything underhanded is not going to increase someone else's competitive edge. That is not empowering someone, that is destruction.

in my natural habitat

In addition, I also felt empowered. There was a rush of energy, and I felt fortunate. My girlfriends are truly influential to me. My friends Cristina, Gigie, Ems, Ana, and Ingrid are one of many who have helped me to be grounded. Learning that I have it in me and that I need to visualize my goals to achieve them. Despite all the stress I am experiencing, I know I can always count on my friends when I am feeling confused and lost. My conversations with my sister are also impressive. Although we are close in age I admire her ability to calm me down in situations where I need to keep it together. There are so many that I wanted to mention and I wanted to do a shout out to everyone who has called me out when I was acting stupid. Most especially to those who uplift me, when I was down.

When things are shifting in our lives, it is so easy to be disempowered. Making an excuse is one and not giving ourselves enough credit. My manager has told me I need to be kinder to myself. As someone competent in her job, I tend to start at Step 4 instead of starting at Step 1. I need to relearn that. There is also that internal dialogue happening within me that I need to be super self-sufficient but in reality, I do not need to be. I need the check-in once in a while to celebrate the little successes. It is good that we have those people to prompt us when we are losing focus. The little reminders are helpful. Furthermore, the guidance should also come from within ourselves. Looking introspective and reshuffling our thoughts so we can maintain our focus. I did it tonight by being an active participant in a conversation which allows me to be me. To be myself. No filter. Ready to accept mistakes and willing to be challenged.

Your empowerment. Your journey. Your destiny.

It is scary to be finding out all this power within us. We have to remember that the only way we are going to be empowered is when we are surrounded by all these admirable people who know our values. Also not afraid to read the riot act when it is needed. But also, having an understanding that living an empowered life entails many things from making a sound/conscious decision to being accountable and responsible. When you can grapple those things and take a hold of them in your heart, you feel a sense of freedom and responsibility. Using all those guides and reminders to polish ourselves so we can truly dig deep into our personal power.

Even when we are facing difficult circumstances and dilemmas where sometimes we feel like it is beyond our control. We know we have a choice. We have a choice of how we want to feel, how we should react and how we want our day to go. No matter how shitty your day, there is always a choice. These choices are what determines how we want to shape our lives. The degree of power we hold can make or break us, but it is up to us on how we are going to utilize them. From your health to attaining goals and even contentment. When you are in charge of your own actions, not allowing the outside circumstances to stand in your way. Working through the challenges you are bringing yourself to a new level. That is power in itself. Believe that you can do it.

Your empowerment. Your journey. Your destiny.